Monday, March 09, 2020

Growing Graitude ... in the ER at St Joe's Hospital (aka the Promised Land?)


Readings:
Genesis 12:1-4a

The first 11 chapters of the Book of Genesis contain story after story of God trying to make the world good, and of humanity constantly undoing and frustrating God’s plans.  Finally in chapter 12, God changes course and both God and humanity are changed forever by it.  Instead of just trying to rule from on high, God chooses one human family – the childless couple, Abram and Sarai, and commits to working with them, to help them grow into a family that can and will help the world to become what it is meant to be.

Deuteronomy 26:1-12

When the people of Israel – descendants of the grandson of Abraham and Sarah, finally enter the promised land, they do so with gratitude for all that God has brought them through to get there.  There is a danger, of course, that (being human) the feeling of gratitude will fade and a feeling of entitlement will emerge in its place.  To help keep this from happening, a practice of thanksgiving offering is established to remind the people every year that the land and its abundance are a gift of God, not just their possession and reward.  The rules set up for the offering also enshrine the understanding that the abundance of the land is meant not just for them and their well-being, but for the well-being of all who happen to be there with them.



For a few days this week we were back at the hospital.  Early Wednesday evening we drove in to the ER with Japhia lying down in the back seat of the car to ease the nausea that had been increasing for some time.  Once there the ER team, knowing her file well and seeing the shape she was in, quickly ran the blood tests and hooked her up for hydration and IV anti-nuaseants.  A few hours later she felt no better. 

Orders were written up to admit her to the GI ward for a few days of continued treatment and observation.  She’d probably spend the night in ER before a bed would open up so the ER staff arranged a private assessment room for her – a windowless, overgrown closet of a room with an uncomfortable assessment bed for her and a hard chair for me, but at least also privacy.

In her eyes I saw again the hopeless, scared look that had been there a few years ago.  In myself I felt the fear of not being able to do or suggest or figure out anything to make things better.  I resisted the urge to go get a cup of coffee from the Tim’s in the hospital lobby. Being able to buy and hold and consume something – almost anything, even just a Tim’s coffee, is one of our addictive culture’s ways of escaping the experience of powerlessness that’s part of real life, and this time I chose not to run away from it.

I asked Japhia what she was thinking or feeling.  “I don’t want to have to feel this.  I just want this (I assumed she meant this gastroparesis) to go away.”

I thought about prayer; we both know people who pray earnestly for miraculous healing.  I thought about gratitude; it’s our big theme here for Lent.  I thought that if prayer and gratitude mean anything at all, they surely must not depend on ignoring what is, and just wishing for something that maybe can’t be.  That maybe both have a lot to do with just becoming more aware – or aware on a deeper level, of what really is.

And as soon as I thought that I became aware of the ongoing murmur and clatter of the rest of the ER department outside the door of our little closet.  People coming in on stretchers and by foot with varieties of injuries, pains and problems.  Brought in by EMS workers or by family or friends.  Being received, triaged and treated by paid, professional medical staff.

And I realized we were not alone.  We felt alone in our little closet.  But really we were part of a community – some people in need of help, some people trained and ready to give it, and a place in the city where we can come together to get it and to give it – to share what we need and what we have for the well-being of all.  And isn’t that a marvelous thing?  I felt connected and grateful.

The next day, Thursday, Japhia was transferred to a room upstairs.  She felt a bit better, but it was still not clear how things would go, how long she might be there, and what the next stage might be.  Before I left that night to go home, we prayed – not asking for anything, rather just giving thanks for what was – for the hospital and its staff, for our marriage and the way we both, as best as we are able, are there for one another, and for the presence of God no matter what.

It was not an easy night, though.  Japhia’s room-mate was a woman in her nineties who was hard of hearing, suffered silent seizures, and who – depending on her position in bed, snored.  Hooked up as she was, Japhia was unable to get up and walk around as she likes to do when she can’t sleep.  When the snoring started all Japhia could do was look heavenward and say with honest and deep exasperation, “Really, are you kidding me?”

Come morning, though, when she awoke she felt the airiness and openness of the room around her.  She looked out the big window beside her bed and saw the beauty of the snow falling heavy and already built up on the trees.  She thought of how excited her seven grandkids would be because of the snow.  She remembered our prayer from the night before.  And even though she still didn’t know when she’s really feel better or what how long it would take to get there – if ever, she felt grateful.  And content with whatever was, and would be.

I wonder if gratitude as a disposition in life is dependent mostly on what we see and how we see it.  Not on what we have or can get.  Not on whether we are successful or admired or where we think – or we’re told, where we should be.  Not on where we are on the social ladder or even in the food chain.  But on our openness to and awareness of the gracious abundance that is pure gift, in any present moment.

I wonder about our reading this morning – the story of the call of God to Abram.  I wonder how we see and read it. 

The story comes in chapter twelve as God’s ultimate answer to the disappointments and disasters of the first eleven chapters of Genesis.  In the beginning the world is created good.  The chaos of all the life forces are brought to good order.  There’s a place for everything and everything is in its place.  The world is an abundant garden of full, vibrant life needing only someone to take care of it and help it stay good. 

But then the creatures to whom God gives that simple task, get other ideas – ideas of domination, power, self-serving control, acquisition and being able to make the world the way they think it should be.  And they pretty well ruin everything and place the life of the world itself in jeopardy.  God tries to fix things – expelling us from the innocence of the garden, giving us rules to follow, making us earn our living, sending a flood to try to wash away evil from the face of the earth.  But none of it works and by chapter eleven we are building a great tower to try to reach into heaven for ourselves and seize ultimate power – the power even of the gods, over life on earth.

The tower, of course, collapses.  But this cannot be allowed to continue.  God changes course, and comes down from heaven to work more completely and intimately from within humanity and human history.  God chooses one childless couple – Abram and Sarai, as the ones through whom the ongoing life of the world will be shaped, and on whose openness and obedience it will depend.

“Come away,” God says.  “Come away from this littered landscape of human ambition and pride, and come to a place I will show you.  Leave your father’s house and your own people, and let me help you give birth to a new kind of people who will be a blessing, not a curse to the world.”  And thus begins the journey of Abram and Sarai to the promised land, and the story of the people of Israel.

And I wonder, how do we read this story?  What do we see in it?

The way I was taught to understand this story is that God is calling Abram out of the mess of people around him all trying to gain control of life, to control the world around them and make it good for themselves, to dominate other people and make them serve their interests, with the power of the gods to back them up and serve their desires … so that God can give Abram a different place in the world, where he can become just like all the others but in a good way, with the real God on his side.

“Come, follow me, Abram, away from this mess.  I have a place I want to show you – an abundant land I will give you to have as your own, if you only follow me.  There are people already there, but don’t worry.  It will be yours.  And your people – the family I will give you, will be great.  You will be special, and you will have – and be able to get for yourself what everyone else only dreams of.  You and me, Abram, we will do it.”

And what can Abram say except, “Praise God.  Where do I sign?”

Except, if it’s true that the kind of gratitude that saves us is not dependent on what we have or can get, on whether we are successful or in control or even healthy, but instead on our openness to the gracious abundance for the well-being of all that is pure gift in any present moment, might it be that what God is saying to Abram in this story is more along the lines of something like this:

“Come, follow me, Abram, away from all these people needing to control and possess what life has to offer.  They are fearful of powerlessness and need, and their fear and their longing for control, even over me, is ruining everything. 

“Come.  I want to show you a place where you can see something special – see what the world really is – a place of abundance, a land flowing with milk and honey, enough for all of what’s really needed as long as people see beyond their fears, accept their powerlessness, and share what’s needed for the well-being of all – the way I dream of it being.

“There are people there already, but you can be there too.  And maybe, just maybe, if you can understand that place for what it is … learn to live with others within its fullness and its limits  … tell others yet about it … and they come to see the world too as a place of gifts for the well-being of all … maybe, just maybe, this whole thing can still be saved … can be the kind of world where those who see and those who don’t, those who need help and those who can help, those who fear powerlessness and those who see more deeply what is given, are able to come together for the well-being of all.  And be grateful together for what is.”

I wonder, is there still hope for our journey to be a journey into the kind of gratitude that will save us and the world that God has made?  Gratitude not for getting what we think we need, what we don’t have, and what we want for ourselves, but for what really and already is for the good of all?  The kind of gratitude Japhia and I had a chance to glimpse and taste a little bit of in the promised land of the ER and the GI ward of St. Joe’s Hospital?

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